How to Set Healthy Boundaries – Loving others without losing yourself.
More often than not, in our communities we are not encouraged to set healthy boundaries with others. We are raised with phrases like, “This is the way it has always been done,” or “People are just set in their ways.” And I am sure we've all heard this:
“Oh, they don’t mean any harm by it—that’s just who they are.”
But what if who they are is not working for you? And what if their actions are causing you harm or discomfort? It is perfectly fine to set your boundaries and be comfortable with them. Setting healthy boundaries doesn’t mean you love people any less. It simply says:
“These are the guidelines I apply to my life. If you respect me, you will acknowledge the boundaries I have set.”
Healthy boundaries protect your peace and make your space safe for you at all times. And if someone cannot respect those boundaries, it’s okay to release them. They knew your boundaries, but chose to disregard them. Their decision is not your fault.
When you set healthy boundaries, you are able to love others without losing yourself in their desires or expectations. It allows you to avoid uncomfortable situations and protects your heart from unnecessary pain. It is a way to love yourself and honor God at the same time.
But here’s the truth: Boundaries only work when you communicate them clearly. When building relationships, especially if you are giving someone more access to your time and energy, it is your responsibility to let them know your boundaries. This ensures that the people in your life are safe for you.
Creating boundaries is not a guarantee that someone is meant to be in your life. Instead, it reveals who truly respects and honors you. When you honor yourself, you are also honoring God.
Proverbs 4:23 (NIV):
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Guarding your heart means setting boundaries. Protecting your peace means honoring the guidelines God has given you to keep you safe and whole. Respecting yourself is respecting God.
Take some time to think about what you want in your life. What are you willing to accept and what aren’t you willing to tolerate? Can you put your boundaries into action and uphold them with love and grace?
Closing Prayer
Heavenly Father, thank You for giving me the wisdom and courage to set healthy boundaries. Teach me to honor You by honoring myself and protecting my peace. Help me to communicate my needs clearly and to release anything or anyone that disrupts my well-being. May I always remember that loving others does not mean losing myself. Guide me in all my relationships, that I may walk in Your truth and love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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