Letting Go of Control – Surrendering to Divine Guidance
Whew, where do I start? This was definitely a struggle for me, and quite honestly, sometimes it still is. I remember very clearly in 2018 when I was smacked in the face with the reality that, Kisha, you don't control anything!
My youngest son had just turned 14, his first year in high school, and he was struggling with so much freedom—he told me so. No more little league football, too old for daycare. Sure, there was the Boys and Girls Club, but the program was not structured to require children to stay if they didn’t want to, the same with recreation centers. So it was a summer of learning. His older siblings—one in college and three incarcerated—were not available to help. Coming out of middle school, he had his first interaction with the law when he advocated for himself, asking, "What about the cameras? The camera is right there!" The reply was, "Well, it wasn’t working," and suddenly, the situation became his word against someone else's. The months of going to court over this were strenuous for him, and as a child who saw no gray areas, he didn’t understand. He began to spiral out of control.
It was the very first time he intentionally, without consideration, disobeyed me. I was shocked and hurt, but what I also realized in that moment was that there is no control.
It was October 2018. Just a couple of weeks after, the man I was dating lost his daughter in a hit-and-run. Again, there was nothing I could do. There was no control. Two people I loved dearly were hurting in very different ways, and there was absolutely nothing I could do. I hurt because they hurt, and I vividly remember hearing, You don’t control anything.
At the time, it didn’t feel good. But as I grew in my faith, I have come to love and appreciate that truth because it is a relief. I am not superwoman. We are not super people, and we do not control anything. When we understand that and truly let go and let God, who is in total control, take care of us and those we love, we are better off. Not to mention, I realized that I had—and still have—help like no other.
My son is no longer here, and all of my children are well past 20, but as their mother, I still desire to help them when I can. However, recently, God spoke again and said, Kisha, you are my assistant. Those are my children.
I needed to hear that, and I am constantly slowing down and referencing my Father: What should I do? And I move as directed.
Are you seeking God? Are you, like me, a control freak? What are you going to do differently?
Scriptures to Reflect On:
"Be still, and know that I am God." (Psalm 46:10)
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6)
"Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)
"The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still." (Exodus 14:14)
Closing Prayer:
Heavenly Father,
Thank You for the peace that comes with surrender. Teach us to release our grip on things we were never meant to control. Remind us daily that You are in charge and that Your plans are greater than anything we could imagine. Help us to trust You fully, to let go of fear, and to move only as You direct us.
Father, I give You every burden I’ve tried to carry on my own. I place my loved ones in Your hands, knowing that You are the ultimate protector and provider. May we learn to walk in faith, not in control, and may our hearts rest in Your promises.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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