Raising Children Through Trials: Parenting Through Hardships
There were many trials for my children and me—trials that started long before I even became a mother. Generational curses that I had no idea existed.
Becoming a mother at 14 was the beginning of the biggest trial of my life. I had no real understanding of what I was stepping into, no relationship with God, and yet, in my youthful mind, I thought, I can do this. And so I did.
But the truth is, my children and I paid the price for decisions I made without seeking God first. I was young and foolish, but as the old saying goes, “God protects babies, old people, and fools.” I can testify to that because, despite my lack of wisdom, He carried us through. I fumbled my way through parenting, trying to figure it all out.
The reality is, parenting doesn’t come with a handbook. And honestly, how could it? Every child is different. I have five children, and I often tell people that my job as a mother isn’t just to love them but to learn them—to understand five unique personalities and love them in the way they each need to be loved.
Before I had a relationship with God, the one thing I did know was love. I had an abundance of it, but for many years, I poured it into all the wrong places. Once I became a mother, I redirected that love toward my children. And through every trial—assault, financial struggles, trouble with the law, gang violence—I gave them the two things I did have: unconditional love and guidance.
Then came my relationship with God.
That changed everything.
Once I truly sought Him, I realized something powerful:
"Children are a heritage from the Lord." — Psalm 127:3-5
My role as a mother wasn’t just to raise my children on my own. I was God’s assistant in raising His children. It wasn’t all on me. My job was to love them, teach them, guide them, and protect them to the best of my ability—and take everything else to God.
I clung to Proverbs 22:6:
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
This morning, my 32-year-old daughter and I had a beautiful conversation about God and the Bible. As we talked, my heart melted. I told her, "This conversation has made my entire day."
She came back around—just as the Bible says.
For every parent out there struggling, wondering if their efforts matter—they do. God has the final say. We do our part, and He does the rest.
"All your children will be taught by the Lord, and great will be their peace." — Isaiah 54:13
Closing Prayer
Father God,
Thank You for entrusting us with the precious gift of children. Lord, parenting is not always easy, but we trust that You are guiding us every step of the way. Help us to love, teach, and nurture our children in the way You have called us to. When we grow weary, remind us that we are not doing this alone—You are with us, strengthening us and guiding our steps.
We lift up every parent who is struggling, feeling lost, or overwhelmed. Lord, give them peace. Let them be reminded that You are the ultimate Father, and You are working in their children's lives even when they cannot see it. Help us to release control and trust You fully with our children.
We declare that our children will walk in Your purpose and plan. They are covered, protected, and guided by Your mighty hand. Thank You, Father, for Your promises. We stand on Your Word, knowing that You will never leave us or forsake us.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
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